If your brother or sister has been diagnosed with cancer you may suddenly realise how important they are in your life. They are lucky to have you as a supportive young person. You will be able to relate to some of the additional stresses, fears and challenges your sister/brother and your entire family are facing. While being a support person to them and your parents is something you probably want to do for your family, it is important that you are aware of your feelings and find ways to cope with your emotions. You're probably frightened for your sister/brothers future, and how cancer may change your relationship. The crazy thing is, your brother or sister's cancer is already changing your special relationship - you are probably experiencing new feelings about your sibling that you have never felt before.

• A greater appreciation of the way your sibling contributes to your life.
• Worried about your sister/brother and the amount of time you can spend with him or her.
• Fearful that your sibling may not survive cancer.
• Jealous or resentful of the amount of time your parents spend worrying or taking care of your sibling.
• Left out when family and friends are always asking about your brother or sister.
• Lonely and missing your parents.
• Sad and depressed.
• Totally helpless at making things better.
• Guilty when you have fun and enjoy yourself.
• Scared of how your parents are coping with your sisters/brothers cancer.
• Concerned of your own mortality and fearful of developing cancer yourself.
• Angry for the continued attention your sibling receives even when he or she is in remission.